I'm not even sure where to start this. Not sure that I even want to write it. Am I being dramatic and overly emotional? Is it so late that I'm delirious and will regret writing some of these things tomorrow? No. Will I make tons of grammatical errors? Yes. But I don't care. I'm going to write this and hopefully not look back on it. Not even proof read it. I'm going to write it, click publish, and be done. Feedback is welcomed, if you choose.
Where do I start? I've had a really rough year. I'm not one to put my business out into the world, because I truly believe that you will attract that which you think. I don't like thinking about these things, however, they need to be said and be done with. Out of my life. GOODBYE.
First let me say I want to clear my name, and anything I may have ever done to offend someone. It was probably intentional at the time, and I am sorry. I haven't always acted as a good person. I've always had a good heart, but haven't always shown it. Yes, there is a specific person I am thinking about while writing this. I've truly felt such a hatred towards her for the past 3-4 years. We did our fair share of ugly things to one another, and I'm sorry. That isn't who I ever wanted to be. I don't want anyone's first middle or last impression of me to be an ugly one. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I am sorry. I'm not sure if she knows of my blog, but if she does I hope she reads this and truly feels that my apology is sincere. I've been holding onto this "grudge" for such a long time, and it honestly haunts me. No not like a ghost around the corner, but I have daily thoughts about things as well as dreams that just have me feeling so terrible. Like I said I've always had a good heart, but I'm different from the person I WAS. I'm proud of who I am today. I'm an amazing wife, a great mother and just a good person in general. This is me.
Now let me apologize, due to the fact that it IS after 2am, I am going to be ALL over the place with my thoughts, but that's just because I feel that I have a lot to say, and I'm not sure what order to say it in.
My next "thought" is on parents having an argument in front of their children. No not like a physical fight, but an argument. I grew up in a home where I was 100% sure that my dad absolutely adored my mom. I know he wasn't a "buy flowers for a lady" type, but it made her feel special, so he did it. My brother, I know, is a great husband to his wife (who I love!) due to how he was raised. Our parents raised us to show respect, be kind, loving, etc. Now, the one thing I don't ever remember hearing or seeing, was my parents fight (argue). I remember my parents separating for a week when I was maybe 6? I remember that day perfectly. My brother and I came home from school on the bus, my dad met us at the door. I remember he had on a short sleeved button up and there was a tiny piece of tissue on his face with a spot of blood. He had been shaving and cut himself. I could feel something wasn't right. He said him and my mom wanted to talk with us. They let us know they were separating and he would be going to live with my grandmother for a bit. My dad was my best friend, so I remember being so sad. It kind of came out of no where though, because like I previously said, I never heard my parents argue. Now fast forward to now. Not specifically today, but just me as a married adult. I have a serious problem with comparing myself, or my husband, or our marriage to anyone/anything else. I want and deserve the marriage my parents had, and when I don't have that, I feel so discouraged. I feel that things are crumbling. It makes me feel like our marriage isn't strong, because we argue at times. When I sit down and really think things through, I know I am being a little crazy and I realize of course people argue. Even my parents, though never in front of me. As much as I don't want my kids to ever hear us argue, I would rather that than have them grow up a confused disaster like me. I want my kids to see that it's OK to argue and eventually come to a mutual agreement or conclusion. No marriage is perfect. Not one. I don't want them to search for perfection one day. I want them to search for that person who will love them unconditionally and do absolutely anything to make them happy. I sure as hell will be raising my kids in the best way that I can. I will raise them to respect, to be honest. As they get older I'll teach them the difference between right and wrong, but let them know that they have the free agency to choose. They will know that consequences come with wrong action, but more importantly that praise comes from good choices.
Nexxxxttttt....
I want to be a stronger person and not doubt myself so often. I want to stand up for myself more than I do. I know Ive said it before, but I NEED to stop comparing myself to others. And I mean that in all aspects whether it be my physical image, myself as a wife, myself as a mother, as a daughter, friend, member of the church, whatever. I'm a good person. A good person, with a good heart, and I sure do try my hardest on a daily basis. That's me talking from a "pretending to be confident" point of view. Let me just say, sometimes I don't get the support or appreciation I need. Marriage is fricken hard. I know it's hard for different people on different levels. No marriage is the same, but let me be the first to say I'm struggling! I'm struggling to feel like I am doing a good enough job sometimes. I am not saying saia doesn't appreciate me, because I know he does. I'm also not saying he doesn't support me, because I know he does. What im saying is that it's not always in the way that I personally am needing it. And as much as I try to get that across it sometimes doesn't work! That's when I struggle. I feel that I am constantly being compared, and it's so hard. It makes me feel like crap to be honest. I know I beat myself up way more than I should. I know a lot of the things I think are just my own thoughts which are beating me down, but I just wish there was a simple way to fix this issue. A stranger or friend telling me "you're a great mom" feels good, but it's not coming from the one I need it to come from. I want sincere love, honesty and appreciation. I want to be accepted as I am, but encouraged to be better. I want to feel WHOLE again. I have this deep dark hole in my heart sometimes and it feels miserable. A smile can truly hide so much. I know for certain that not one person out there could have predicted that I'm feeling all of this. I don't let things out often, and when I do it's almost too late. Too late to fix things or to feel better. I slide my feelings under the rug way too often, and that leaves me feeling beat down. I'm so hard on myself and I need to somehow change that.
It's almost 3am now, and I'm just a mess. Tears and boogers everywhere! I'm grateful for this blog though. I'm grateful for a place to vent and get things off my chest. I don't want to come across as someone who is ungrateful, because I'm not. I am very grateful for saia that provides for our family, and very grateful for my kids who drive me crazy but remind me what it's all about. It's about love and happiness! Having kids was the greatest decision. I'm able to contribute 3 happy loving positive kids to society, to hopefully make the world a little brighter. I truly hope my heart and head can start feeling a little better. I hope to be a better person tomorrow than I was today, and I hope to get all the wonderful things that life has to offer. I deserve them.
10.23.2013
8.30.2013
well well well!
Well HELLOOOOOO there. Your girl has UPGRADED! Gah-lee... FINALLY. So yes, im on my laptop, yes the one that lyric broke like a year ago. By broke, i mean cracked the screen. So it's finally fixed. I never really saw it as a necessity, or super important to get fixed. Especially because we have the iPad... but having it back is wonderful! We're in our new place, and finally have our internet and Dish set up as well. Thats what i mean by i've been UPGRADED. Halleluiah! I feel whole and human and connected to the world again. My phone service at the house SUCKS, so pinterest wasn't an option, facebook would work on occasion if i was lucky and blogging just wasn't an option at all. Im back and it feels so good :)
Well things around here are ok, nothing too new. I dont know exactly where i left off at, but were in a house of our own now, and its perfect for us. Im still in the decorating phase, and that'll probably last a whole year or so until it's where i want it! Patience is key i guess. Everything is coming along great, even though the only thing hanging on my walls right now is a picture of Jesus. What better place to start though, right? I need to get the kids pictures taken so I can get crafty and make some of those fake canvas things on wood to go behind our couch, thats something im so excited to do! Hopefully it comes out great, and not a project to add to the "nailed it" folder! ;)
The kids are doing great.. Lyric will be 3 in a little over 2 months and I still cant believe it! Luve will be 2 in January and baby Vita will be 1 in March. Lyric is currently obsessed with movies, watching learning video's on youtube, singing, dancing, being bossy, singing her ABC's, playing rough with her daddy and she LOVES being outside. She'd be a camper if she could, I swear. She just loves being outside, and if this fricken weather would cooperate (not be 100+ each day) then i'd love to be out them with them all day! But unfortunately it's just way too hot, so we go out in the morning before that sun gets too strong :) Luve is a little rascal/terror. Yes it's that serious. He is just constantly into EVERYTHING. I guess he's just the typical 1 1/2 yr old child, which Lyric never was. She was always cautious, which this little boy is definitely not! He is always falling or jumping off the couch, book shelf, his bed, pretty much anything he can be crazy with, he is. If doing something will give me a heart attack, he does it. Actually he specializes in it! Other than being crazy, he's been good lately about eating new things (he was SO picky before) and he loves "singing" along when he hears a song he loves... usually "cheer up charlie" from Willy Wonka. They're obsessed. He's still not really talking,.......... ok not talking at all. Lyric was the same, she didn't say anything till she was about 2 so im hoping he comes around sooner than later! He still has a few months i suppose :) We love this little guy. Baby Vita is just the cutest squishiest HAPPIEST baby around! I cant get enough of him. He is SO easy going. He's happy just chillin on the floor watching his older brother and sister. He thinks they are HILARIOUS. I can make the kid smile, but his deep belly laughs come from watching Lyric and Luve just play and be silly. They are both SO good with him, always (well usually) cautious and love giving him kisses. I love that they are all so close in age and will hopefully grow up watching over and protecting eachother.
Anyway - thats about all thats going on here. I'll start taking pictures more often so I can update the blog with pictures of my little heart beats. I sure do love them!
...till next time...
Well things around here are ok, nothing too new. I dont know exactly where i left off at, but were in a house of our own now, and its perfect for us. Im still in the decorating phase, and that'll probably last a whole year or so until it's where i want it! Patience is key i guess. Everything is coming along great, even though the only thing hanging on my walls right now is a picture of Jesus. What better place to start though, right? I need to get the kids pictures taken so I can get crafty and make some of those fake canvas things on wood to go behind our couch, thats something im so excited to do! Hopefully it comes out great, and not a project to add to the "nailed it" folder! ;)
The kids are doing great.. Lyric will be 3 in a little over 2 months and I still cant believe it! Luve will be 2 in January and baby Vita will be 1 in March. Lyric is currently obsessed with movies, watching learning video's on youtube, singing, dancing, being bossy, singing her ABC's, playing rough with her daddy and she LOVES being outside. She'd be a camper if she could, I swear. She just loves being outside, and if this fricken weather would cooperate (not be 100+ each day) then i'd love to be out them with them all day! But unfortunately it's just way too hot, so we go out in the morning before that sun gets too strong :) Luve is a little rascal/terror. Yes it's that serious. He is just constantly into EVERYTHING. I guess he's just the typical 1 1/2 yr old child, which Lyric never was. She was always cautious, which this little boy is definitely not! He is always falling or jumping off the couch, book shelf, his bed, pretty much anything he can be crazy with, he is. If doing something will give me a heart attack, he does it. Actually he specializes in it! Other than being crazy, he's been good lately about eating new things (he was SO picky before) and he loves "singing" along when he hears a song he loves... usually "cheer up charlie" from Willy Wonka. They're obsessed. He's still not really talking,.......... ok not talking at all. Lyric was the same, she didn't say anything till she was about 2 so im hoping he comes around sooner than later! He still has a few months i suppose :) We love this little guy. Baby Vita is just the cutest squishiest HAPPIEST baby around! I cant get enough of him. He is SO easy going. He's happy just chillin on the floor watching his older brother and sister. He thinks they are HILARIOUS. I can make the kid smile, but his deep belly laughs come from watching Lyric and Luve just play and be silly. They are both SO good with him, always (well usually) cautious and love giving him kisses. I love that they are all so close in age and will hopefully grow up watching over and protecting eachother.
Anyway - thats about all thats going on here. I'll start taking pictures more often so I can update the blog with pictures of my little heart beats. I sure do love them!
...till next time...
6.14.2013
Blogging FAIL.
I can't believe it's been two months since I blogged! Where the hell have I been and what have I been doing? Oh you're wondering the same? Lets recap then.
So honestly I don't know what the past two months have been like... Because I can't even remember two days ago. Yes it's that serious. I CAN tell you, though, what last week was like! We were in Utah visiting Saia's side of our family. It was a blast! We were there for 7 days and it truly felt like only two. We were busy busy the whole time which was perfect for us. We got in Wednesday, Thursday was our oldest nephew Noah's graduation followed by a dance in his honor that night. The music was SOOOOO loud it was crazy. My poor children. Saia walked around with his thumbs covering Vita's ears so he wouldn't be deaf! Other than that, the food was good and company was even better. We had fun! I have no idea what happened Friday, but Saturday we had day 1 of our family reunion and it was s fun as always. We played games, had relay races, had our husbands lick whipped cream off our faces, went swimming, etc. unfortunately I got sunburned! Oh and I can't forget that we ate a ton. Or at least I did. Who can turn down delicious Tongan food & BBQ? Exactly. After all of that, a few of us couples left the kids with their grandma and grandpa (and aunts lome!) and went bowling! It was so fun until they kicked us out for no reason at all. What a bunch of jerks. Saia and I decided to go have some alone time and relax at a hotel for the night. It was a perfect night spent together. With three kids and his busy schedule, we RARELY get uninterrupted time alone, so it was such a great to be able to have that. We've decided to try and do that once a month. :)
Anyway, Sunday we went to church with the whole family. My mother and father in law gave talks as well as my sister in law Lome who is awaiting her mission call! Everything was in Tongan, so I only understood bits and pieces, but saia later told me about the talks and I loved them all. Especially he one my mother in law gave on marriage. We headed to the temple for family pictures, then to Soana's house to eat and just hang out. My poor luve was soooo whiney. He got sick somehow and is teething as well, so he just wasn't a very happy camper. Monday we hung out with family, went to eat with a bunch of them then I headed home with Soana while saia and Noah went to hang out with Mapa Si'i. We left early Tuesday morning and are so glad to be home and back in a routine, but miss everyone so much. I always look forward to our trips out there. I love the kids being able to play with their cousins and for saia and I to make more memories.
So that was our trip! Now I have a screaming baby on the floor who hates tummy time so I've got to run!
Until next time....
So honestly I don't know what the past two months have been like... Because I can't even remember two days ago. Yes it's that serious. I CAN tell you, though, what last week was like! We were in Utah visiting Saia's side of our family. It was a blast! We were there for 7 days and it truly felt like only two. We were busy busy the whole time which was perfect for us. We got in Wednesday, Thursday was our oldest nephew Noah's graduation followed by a dance in his honor that night. The music was SOOOOO loud it was crazy. My poor children. Saia walked around with his thumbs covering Vita's ears so he wouldn't be deaf! Other than that, the food was good and company was even better. We had fun! I have no idea what happened Friday, but Saturday we had day 1 of our family reunion and it was s fun as always. We played games, had relay races, had our husbands lick whipped cream off our faces, went swimming, etc. unfortunately I got sunburned! Oh and I can't forget that we ate a ton. Or at least I did. Who can turn down delicious Tongan food & BBQ? Exactly. After all of that, a few of us couples left the kids with their grandma and grandpa (and aunts lome!) and went bowling! It was so fun until they kicked us out for no reason at all. What a bunch of jerks. Saia and I decided to go have some alone time and relax at a hotel for the night. It was a perfect night spent together. With three kids and his busy schedule, we RARELY get uninterrupted time alone, so it was such a great to be able to have that. We've decided to try and do that once a month. :)
Anyway, Sunday we went to church with the whole family. My mother and father in law gave talks as well as my sister in law Lome who is awaiting her mission call! Everything was in Tongan, so I only understood bits and pieces, but saia later told me about the talks and I loved them all. Especially he one my mother in law gave on marriage. We headed to the temple for family pictures, then to Soana's house to eat and just hang out. My poor luve was soooo whiney. He got sick somehow and is teething as well, so he just wasn't a very happy camper. Monday we hung out with family, went to eat with a bunch of them then I headed home with Soana while saia and Noah went to hang out with Mapa Si'i. We left early Tuesday morning and are so glad to be home and back in a routine, but miss everyone so much. I always look forward to our trips out there. I love the kids being able to play with their cousins and for saia and I to make more memories.
So that was our trip! Now I have a screaming baby on the floor who hates tummy time so I've got to run!
Until next time....
4.15.2013
Yes please
So here I am again, on my "lunch break" we'll call it, while the kids are napping. I should probably be cleaning, but it's ok. Laundry and dishes are being washed right now so a small break should be allowed ;)
Anyway! A lot is going on around here. Some good, some bad and some ugly! We won't get into all of that just yet, BUT I want to say I'm just learning so much about life. So much about family as a structure, so much about people, and just so much about me. You know, being a mother truly has made me a better person. I can say that I've always had a good heart, but I let things get the best of me, and let an ugly side of me come out. Hey, I'm not perfect. We have all had our good and bad days, right? Yes. Well Moving here to texas and taking myself out of certain environments has, in my opinion, made me into who I really am. It's brought that "good person" back out of me. Not that it was gone, but it was definitely a bit hidden. I had let myself slip out of ME and into a completely different person. I don't know how else to explain that.
So anyway, I'm just looking at life a lot differently lately. I've learned a TON from my mom since moving here to texas. She has always been a good example, and is just a good person. Period. She always taught me to look for and try to only see the good in people, and to also choose wisely where to put your energy. By that I mean pick and choose your battles. Don't get so worked up over things that don't deserve it, or that you can't change. For example, if someone is being ugly to you, SURE you can get on their level and fight back, or you can just let it go. I've learned to let it go. If something happens in life that you have NO control over, JUST LET IT GO. Getting worked up isn't going to change that situation, so why waste your energy? Don't.
I'm trying to look at things differently, as well. Abraham Lincoln has some pretty great quotes floating around out there. One of my recent fav's is "you can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses." SO PERFECT. Change your perspective. Life opens up so much when you try and find joy in things. The more positive you are, the more you'll be able to welcome positivity into your life :) amen and the end.
On another note, I'm trying to be and eat healthier. I've been having a green smoothie for breakfast in the mornings or a peanut butter banana smoothie which is DELICIOUS and healthy. A few ice cubes, 2 bananas, half(ish) cup of almond milk, tbsp of peanut butter, and a half cup of cooked oatmeal. Try it. Soooo good. I told saia it really tastes like ice cream! He didn't think so, but that's just because the kid eats REAL ice cream daily. Ohh to have the fastest metabolism! What a blessing. Haha. Anyway! So I'm also tryyyyiinngg to fit in a little work out here and there. Ill be honest, it doesn't happen every day that's for sure! It's hard with three kids, but not impossible, so I'm doing the best I can and that's what matters. But just a little note to my future self if you don't mind :
Andie, if you plan to get pregnant ever again, PLEASE remember a few things.
1. Though you're probably craving soda, don't drink it. It'll make you unnecessarily fat and it'll suck to work off after your pregnancy.
2. Though those cookies and little Debbie's cakes DO taste so good... Don't eat them. They will make you fat and it'll suck to work off after your pregnancy.
3. Get your fat pregnant ass up and take a walk. Every. Single. Day. IT'LL MAKE YOU LOOK BETTER AND FEEL BETTER, ESPECIALLY AFTER YOUR PREGNANCY.
Please trust this advice, because its coming from your old large self that is currently trying so hard to get rid of the soda that you drank as well as the cookies and little Debbie's cakes you chose to eat.
SINCERELY,
Me. Well, you. Or I guess, US.
Anyway! A lot is going on around here. Some good, some bad and some ugly! We won't get into all of that just yet, BUT I want to say I'm just learning so much about life. So much about family as a structure, so much about people, and just so much about me. You know, being a mother truly has made me a better person. I can say that I've always had a good heart, but I let things get the best of me, and let an ugly side of me come out. Hey, I'm not perfect. We have all had our good and bad days, right? Yes. Well Moving here to texas and taking myself out of certain environments has, in my opinion, made me into who I really am. It's brought that "good person" back out of me. Not that it was gone, but it was definitely a bit hidden. I had let myself slip out of ME and into a completely different person. I don't know how else to explain that.
So anyway, I'm just looking at life a lot differently lately. I've learned a TON from my mom since moving here to texas. She has always been a good example, and is just a good person. Period. She always taught me to look for and try to only see the good in people, and to also choose wisely where to put your energy. By that I mean pick and choose your battles. Don't get so worked up over things that don't deserve it, or that you can't change. For example, if someone is being ugly to you, SURE you can get on their level and fight back, or you can just let it go. I've learned to let it go. If something happens in life that you have NO control over, JUST LET IT GO. Getting worked up isn't going to change that situation, so why waste your energy? Don't.
I'm trying to look at things differently, as well. Abraham Lincoln has some pretty great quotes floating around out there. One of my recent fav's is "you can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses." SO PERFECT. Change your perspective. Life opens up so much when you try and find joy in things. The more positive you are, the more you'll be able to welcome positivity into your life :) amen and the end.
On another note, I'm trying to be and eat healthier. I've been having a green smoothie for breakfast in the mornings or a peanut butter banana smoothie which is DELICIOUS and healthy. A few ice cubes, 2 bananas, half(ish) cup of almond milk, tbsp of peanut butter, and a half cup of cooked oatmeal. Try it. Soooo good. I told saia it really tastes like ice cream! He didn't think so, but that's just because the kid eats REAL ice cream daily. Ohh to have the fastest metabolism! What a blessing. Haha. Anyway! So I'm also tryyyyiinngg to fit in a little work out here and there. Ill be honest, it doesn't happen every day that's for sure! It's hard with three kids, but not impossible, so I'm doing the best I can and that's what matters. But just a little note to my future self if you don't mind :
Andie, if you plan to get pregnant ever again, PLEASE remember a few things.
1. Though you're probably craving soda, don't drink it. It'll make you unnecessarily fat and it'll suck to work off after your pregnancy.
2. Though those cookies and little Debbie's cakes DO taste so good... Don't eat them. They will make you fat and it'll suck to work off after your pregnancy.
3. Get your fat pregnant ass up and take a walk. Every. Single. Day. IT'LL MAKE YOU LOOK BETTER AND FEEL BETTER, ESPECIALLY AFTER YOUR PREGNANCY.
Please trust this advice, because its coming from your old large self that is currently trying so hard to get rid of the soda that you drank as well as the cookies and little Debbie's cakes you chose to eat.
SINCERELY,
Me. Well, you. Or I guess, US.
4.12.2013
Advice
I'm sitting here at the kitchen table, surrounded by two messy children in their booster seats with food half on the tray and half on eir clothes and the floor. The table has two cups with straws, cheezits, a left over syrup bottle from breakfast and a spoon. If my husband came home right now, he'd wonder what the heck I've been doing all day and why this room is such a disaster! Well, honey, I've done 4 loads of laundry; all washed folded/hung and put away. I've cleaned the living room and partially cleaned the bathroom! Sure the kids are a mess but they've had baths, naps and the two meals they should have had by now. Not to mention, the baby was bathed, recently fed and is now sleeping peacefully in his swing. I feel accomplished! Of course my job isn't yet done, but the sun is still shining so I've still got time ;) but for now, this is the only "me" time ill get today, so I'm gonna take it :)
Blogging is kind of relaxing. It's nice to take 10 or so minutes a day to just kind of relax and evaluate your day. Or tell a story. Either works! After all, it is MY time, so I'm going to use it however I wish!
So anyway, a while back a few of my friends who were going to be first time moms asked me for advice on being a mother, what worked for me and what didn't, etc. I was thinking about that today a lot while I was cleaning. First off let me say this, our house isn't always clean, he laundry isn't ALWAYS done, and our meals aren't always the healthiest... HOWEVER.. I do try my hardest. This is my job. I chose this. I chose to be a mother and a wife, it's what I've always wanted, and just as another person in their "dream job", I strive to do the best I can. Sure I don't always succeed, but every little ounce of effort counts. Am I right or am I right? I thought so.
So back to the advice. Rule #1 NEVER fall behind on your family's laundry. Ever. Ok just kidding, because its gonna happen to us all, but at least try not to, because it truly sucks! Remember up there how I said I've done 4 loads? Yeah I'm still not done. I have two more to do. Granted that does include blankets and sheets and such, but still. Rule #2 if you DO get behind on the laundry, and say you begin it but don't fold it right away so it ends up extra wrinkly on your bedroom floor for a day and a half, DON'T worry. Folding it and putting it away isn't really THAT bad. Laundry is kind of like working out. Starting it sucks, but once you're doing it and then finally done, you realize it truly wasn't all that bad, or hard, and didn't take that long. Rule #4 if you don't have more than one child, don't complain about having no time to do anything!!!! Just kidding. This is all just becoming awkwardly funny now, but on a more serious note, with each child I have, I realize how much I can really do in a short amount of time. 2 hours for a nap used to mean me watching the Ellen show, maybe a little prep for dinner and making our bed, ON MY GOOD DAYS. Crazy right? Shooooooooot, NOW a 2 hour nap means cleaning our bedroom, the living room, bathroom, doing laundry, prepping for dinner AND watching Ellen! It's kind of that feeling after you get off the phone with someone who drops that dreaded line "I'm heading that way and just wanted to drop by" ..... So you say "suuuuuure!" In your high pitched fake-as-hell voice, hang up the phone and become a crazy person cleaning everything in sight, knowing you have MAYBE 10 minutes to get the job done, and surprisingly, you do! That's how nap time goes for me. I know if I finish my job early, I can relax. Though most days the second I sit down, I hear someone making noise/waking up.. But that's ok too, because atleast that part of my job is d.o.n.e. mission accomplished.
Sooooo back to the advice? Yeah I really don't have any serious advice other than do what's best for you and what WORKS for you! Some people get up before their kids to get things done, and sure I could do that since my kids sleep till 9:30, but who wants to wake up earlier than they HAVE to? I enjoy my 9ish hours of sleep each night. I am up every 3-4 hours to feed the baby but no complaints there. In my opinion I have it good, and that's something I remind myself of often. Especially when I'm feeling frustrated or discouraged. My days don't always go as planned, and most days I look like a mess until 10 minutes before my husband comes home (or I just look like a mess. All.day.long) BUT I have three happy healthy children who have all the love and support in the world! I have a hard working husband who I know loves me and would do anything for our family, and THAT to me is what life is all about. Not counting the good times, but making each good time count ;)
Blogging is kind of relaxing. It's nice to take 10 or so minutes a day to just kind of relax and evaluate your day. Or tell a story. Either works! After all, it is MY time, so I'm going to use it however I wish!
So anyway, a while back a few of my friends who were going to be first time moms asked me for advice on being a mother, what worked for me and what didn't, etc. I was thinking about that today a lot while I was cleaning. First off let me say this, our house isn't always clean, he laundry isn't ALWAYS done, and our meals aren't always the healthiest... HOWEVER.. I do try my hardest. This is my job. I chose this. I chose to be a mother and a wife, it's what I've always wanted, and just as another person in their "dream job", I strive to do the best I can. Sure I don't always succeed, but every little ounce of effort counts. Am I right or am I right? I thought so.
So back to the advice. Rule #1 NEVER fall behind on your family's laundry. Ever. Ok just kidding, because its gonna happen to us all, but at least try not to, because it truly sucks! Remember up there how I said I've done 4 loads? Yeah I'm still not done. I have two more to do. Granted that does include blankets and sheets and such, but still. Rule #2 if you DO get behind on the laundry, and say you begin it but don't fold it right away so it ends up extra wrinkly on your bedroom floor for a day and a half, DON'T worry. Folding it and putting it away isn't really THAT bad. Laundry is kind of like working out. Starting it sucks, but once you're doing it and then finally done, you realize it truly wasn't all that bad, or hard, and didn't take that long. Rule #4 if you don't have more than one child, don't complain about having no time to do anything!!!! Just kidding. This is all just becoming awkwardly funny now, but on a more serious note, with each child I have, I realize how much I can really do in a short amount of time. 2 hours for a nap used to mean me watching the Ellen show, maybe a little prep for dinner and making our bed, ON MY GOOD DAYS. Crazy right? Shooooooooot, NOW a 2 hour nap means cleaning our bedroom, the living room, bathroom, doing laundry, prepping for dinner AND watching Ellen! It's kind of that feeling after you get off the phone with someone who drops that dreaded line "I'm heading that way and just wanted to drop by" ..... So you say "suuuuuure!" In your high pitched fake-as-hell voice, hang up the phone and become a crazy person cleaning everything in sight, knowing you have MAYBE 10 minutes to get the job done, and surprisingly, you do! That's how nap time goes for me. I know if I finish my job early, I can relax. Though most days the second I sit down, I hear someone making noise/waking up.. But that's ok too, because atleast that part of my job is d.o.n.e. mission accomplished.
Sooooo back to the advice? Yeah I really don't have any serious advice other than do what's best for you and what WORKS for you! Some people get up before their kids to get things done, and sure I could do that since my kids sleep till 9:30, but who wants to wake up earlier than they HAVE to? I enjoy my 9ish hours of sleep each night. I am up every 3-4 hours to feed the baby but no complaints there. In my opinion I have it good, and that's something I remind myself of often. Especially when I'm feeling frustrated or discouraged. My days don't always go as planned, and most days I look like a mess until 10 minutes before my husband comes home (or I just look like a mess. All.day.long) BUT I have three happy healthy children who have all the love and support in the world! I have a hard working husband who I know loves me and would do anything for our family, and THAT to me is what life is all about. Not counting the good times, but making each good time count ;)
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