WHY ME!

OK.... have any of you ever gotten a hair cut that you hated?


.........lets start over...........


You know those stories you've heard about people who go in to the hair salon (or great clips, whatever fits your budget), and come out looking not so hot? Basically they ask for one thing and get another? Yeah, those stories are always so sad... but extremely hilarious. Well that was until today. Why you may ask?


IT HAPPENED TO ME.


So, my "salon" of choice was great clips. It fits in my budget! Not only that, but i just wanted something simple done, not anything too wild/crazy, nothing seemingly difficult, so great clips it was. I was ready! Bye Lyric & Luve, mama will be back looking FRESH!


Or so I thought.


So I walk in and was greeted by a nice young man. Typed in my phone # and said "Mrs Vainuku?" Yes thats me. Then a nice chubby lady said "i'm open, i'll do it!" (by the way, had my hair not come out the way it did, i wouldn't refer to her as 'chubby'.. but whatever. she deserves it!) Anyway - so I sit down and we start talking. I love going places with adults, because im able to have a nice sit down without kids everywhere, and enjoy some adult conversation. I let her know what i want done, and even show her a picture. "3 inches off the bottom, and lots of layers like this (shows picture)" Ok, sounds good! So she starts. She eventually says the length is all off now she will start the layers. She specifically said "it's going to look like alot of hair is gone, but dont worry, we're done with the length so no more of that will go."

EXCELLENT! She definatly knows what she's doing.

So we continue our conversation, she lets me know she graduated hair school in July.. July as in just a few months ago. *crickets* ok WHAT? Why would I get stuck with a lady who has been cutting hair for like 4 months? And my hair is as long as most peoples arms! Whatever, i told her "i have faith in you"... even though i was starting to sweat a little.

CHOP CHOP CHOP

And then "we're all done!" then she says "so alot of times once customers get home and dry the hair, it doesn't look how they wanted. It looks great while wet but different once dry, so if there is something you dont like, just come back in and we'll fix it." Hmm.. made me a little nervous! I figured id pay, go home to my babies and figure out if I liked it then. After all, if I didn't like it, what would I have said? You suck!!!! No, that's just uncalled for. Or so I thought at the time. So I pay, and go to pull my hair up to a pony tail, and "whoa whoa whoa.... something is missing... for some reason my hair is WAY light and feels really short." Is what was playing through my head. I walked out of there, got into the car and headed the whole mile and a half home.

I CRIED. I dried my hair, and CRIED! This trick seriously cut like 9 inches off my hair. YES my hair was super long and probably TOO long, but its my hair. I paid for something I was supposed to like, what I asked for. Well... lets just say i have alot less hair now. Im even too embarassed to put up a picture. It doesn't look HORRIBLE to most im sure, but it's horrible. Just trust me. It barely under my chest. Im sure that's long to alot of people, but not me. My hair is seriously my security blanket. I have had long hair since probably the 7th grade after i cut it to my shoulders and it looked like a witches broom. WORST. MISTAKE. EVER. (never to be repeated!) So ever since then, i've had luxurious long locks! Frick you GREAT CLIPS!!

UGH....


Next time maybe i'll just listen to my husband and let HIM cut my hair. Pretty sure it'd look better than what this lady did.

Respect.

I know, I know.... I just posted an entry maybe.... 30 minutes ago? If even that. I guess my goal to be a better blogger is taking full effect! Just kidding. Kind of.


Anyway - the real reason I had the desire to blog wasn't to update "whoever" on my kids/family. Though thats the best reason in the world! What prompted me to hop back on here, is really the fact that i had a zillion and eight things going through my head about a certain subject, and had no where else to dump. No facebook, no social life, etc. (jk on the social life - but again only kind of).


Anyway! Take a wild guess what that certain "subject" is.... are you guessing? Or did you just guess it's about my title? Well ding ding if you got it right. It's about respect. Respect has a whole new meaning to my life lately. I've always been taught respect, to respect others as well as yourself, but lately i've been seeing such a LACK of respect, and im going nuts! Let me explain.....


So a few months back, I got rid of my facebook. I was basically tired of people complaining, and of comparing my life to the shining moments of others. What i mean by that is if i was having a crappy day, I would see that someone else's day was fantastic, they recieved flowers, they won the lottery, etc. Whatever. In truth, people generally only post the positive things going on in their life. Or atleast they want to draw the most attention to it. GREAT for them. And for me, when i have great days. BUT what it doesn't show is their crappy days. Crappy just like the one that maybe i happened to be having at the moment. The internet lies, man. Haha - sounds crazy but that is (in a nutshell) why i decided to erase my facebook. I've been happy without it, too. Sure there are moments i miss seeing what everyone is up to, seeing my friends children growing, etc. But then i realize i am where i need to be. Spending more time with my kids, not competing online.


Anyway! So a while after my break up with facebook, i hopped on Instagram. It's fun, just a bunch of friends who post pictures. Friends and Kim Kardashian. Is it necessary for her to post so many pictures of her serious, non smiling face? Truth is I dont mind. It's kind of fun to "follow" a couple celeb's and see what they're up to. The girls from Teen Mom too! Yes im a guilty watcher. Sue me. So Instagram is where i've seen all this LACK of respect going on. 3 words for you...

I AM BAFFLED.

I dont even know if that makes complete sense, but thats about all i can come up with. There are so many celebrity's who post pictures online, and i CANNOT get over how negative people are. Like, unnecessarily negative. For example: teen mom Jenelle posts a picture of her new shoes. Cute. You expect people to respond with "cute shoes!" or "ehh.. not my fav"... whatever. What you DONT expect is for them to start bashing her life. "MAYBE you should be more concerned about your kid than your shoes"... another example - Snooki. Snooki posts a picture of herself and people respond with "dont you think you should be taking care of your kid rather than taking pictures of yourself? How do you have time to do all these things with a newborn" .... ok my argument or whatever right now seems pointless... just stay with me.... So anyway - those are rude comments and pretty unnecessary, right? Yes. Well THEN a little 15 year old comes in bashing the person who bashed the celeb with a "shut the (*^&( up you ignorant *&^*^ - go kill yourself"


WAIT.


She said... WHAT???????????????????


When the HELL did something like this become acceptable?? When did this start??? I honestly do remember bullies and being bullied a bit growing up. Sure. But to call someone out even just online, that you don't know, and not just that but to go so far to say "go kill yourself"?? I've at least come across that statement on Instagram over 10 times in the past week or so. And it's not like i fish through people's comments for it. It's just THERE. Everywhere. WHY are people so disrespectful and cruel? WHY and WHEN did a parent stop monitoring what their kids do? I would hope if these kids parents saw the way they were treating others, that something would be done. I know I am without a doubt NOT perfect, and I've said my fair share of mean things in my past. But go kill yourself?? Good lord. The majority of people i see saying this are females. Females to other Females. It happens with males too, but not as much (that I've seen). We've all heard of "cyber bullying" but i had absolutely NO idea it was this bad. I am sure 9 times out of 10 the person on the other side being called out doesn't care much, but what about the 1 person that does? What happened to respecting OURSELVES enough to not degrade someone? Where has society seriously gone? Other than "down the tubes" i have no way to describe it. What will it take for people to make a difference? Seriously. As a stay at home mom this makes me feel SO disconnected from Society, to be so shocked by something like this that maybe others just blow right past. But im SO glad I AM disconnected and not apart of it! I am ranting and raving it seems but it just makes me so sad. If females don't respect themselves and others, why would a man? I am terrified for my kids to grow up around all this garbage. I will be SURE to teach them right from wrong, respect, and will make SURE i am apart of their DAILY lives to not skip out on signs i shouldn't miss. I don't want my kids wrapped up in all the trash of today's world.


What happened to the world..........

Slow down, please.

Wow, has it really been over 9 months since i've updated? Im embarassed. Not because I write for anyone inparticular to read, but because this serves as a journal of some sort, and I haven't kept up with it. I haven't documented all the fun things we've done the past 9 months, haven't uploaded pictures, haven't expressed feelings, nothing! Sad. Well, as they say you cant change the past, but you can change the future. So here I am!! Well, where to start? The kids are seriously huge. Luve is turning 9 months in a few short days and Lyric will be 2 in about a month. WHAT?!?!?! Yes 2. I still remember her being born. I remember every single detail about her birth, my labor story, etc. I cannot believe my little diva is going to be two! Where on earth does time go? You know, i sat the other day watching TV or messing around on my phone and realized from what seemed like one second to the next, nearly 10 minutes had passed. It feels like time is going faster these days than it did when I was a carefree child. It scares me a little bit, because though I absolutely LOVE seeing my babies grow, i don't want them to grow forever. I want them to reach a certain age, then just stay there. All of us. I want to cherish every single second with them and our family in general. I don't want their lives to go as fast or even faster than mine did. I want this happiness to just last forever. I plan to make that happen. SO back to them being huge. Lyric is running, dancing, and singing all the time. She's our little diva, seriously. I love her personality and her love of what seems like everything. She is VERY independent, but has her moments of wanting to be snuggled (though they are rare). She is happy playing on her own but also loves other kids. She gets so excited just watching other kids in the neighborhood ride their bikes or interact with each other. She is truly heaven sent and I could never ask for a better little girl. She is perfect. I swear she's been this way since day 1! Luve, 8 months old, is ALL over the place. He crawls so fast and pulls himself up on everything! He is working on growing his 6th tooth! He loves eating, sleeping, being held and his sister. He seriously thinks lyric is THE funniest thing on earth. He's also extremely fascinated by our little dog who drives me insane. (that's a whole other story - we wont go there). Anyway - he is such a bundle of JOY! Generally a very happy baby, though he doesn't like when someone isn't paying attention. He's definitely not as independent as his sister, but that's just fine. He's perfect to us as well :) Saia & I just love watching them interact with each other. I love seeing them play and grow and cant wait for the years to come. Saia & I are both doing great. He is busy working and I'm of course busy with these two little characters. There are days I do go crazy and get stressed out, but then i realize I am extremely blessed to be home with them and be able to see all the fun things they do and learn. I LOVE being a stay at home mom! I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. Well one more thing, we just got our tickets to go back to utah for a little vacation and family time, and we are so excited! I know Saia is home sick so he needs a good dose of family (and tongan food! haha) every few months. I also love to have our kids around all their cousins. We dont have lots of family here, so it's a fun treat for Lyric especially to get to play with all her cousins on her Daddy's side. I also am looking forward to cooler weather! This 90 degrees business is just not ok in October! I want to see the pretty fall leaves that turn the mountains all kinds of colors. I miss all of that SO much. And snow. Im not asking for snow while we're in Utah, but I do know we will eventually end up living back there and I cannot wait. I grew up in Hot Texas and didn't get to experience snow until I was an adult. I want my kids to have it, though. I want the warm fireplace inside and the snow falling outside. I want them to have it all :) Anyway - that's our current life in a nutshell. We are happy and blessed, and there isn't much more we could ask for.